How To Have A Threesome
How To Have A Threesome
Talk with your partner about having a threesome
Even if you’ve only been together for a few months, you should be ready to have serious conversations about sex and intimacy. If you’re not in a monogamous relationship, it’s important to talk through all of the aspects of having a threesome
You need to discuss how accepting you are of other people, whether they are men or women, into your life, as well as your sexual preferences.
It can be difficult deciding where to go for your next meal, let alone planning a third person date! But taking the time to plan out your three-way will help make it more fun and easier.
Let each other know what you want from this trip, so there’s less chance of one of you being left out.
Sharing these details also helps keep things clean between you. It reminds both of you that no matter who ends up inside you, you are still partners at the end of the day.
Also, talking about what you want makes it much harder to blame yourself if something goes wrong. You were never really prepared, but now you understand why things happened the way they did.
If you talked about which expectations you have of each other, as well as yours around sex, then everything is better.
This takes the pressure off of you two to feel like you are always bringing in someone new. People are very insecure when it comes to love and sex
Test the water
It’s hard to know how people will react when you ask for their thoughts or feelings about a threesome. Some may be more open than others, but it can be difficult to tell what they are thinking.
If you want to have a threesome, don’t just go asking someone out of the blue if they like that thing. You want to try testing the waters with them before going into an intimate conversation.
Maybe in the coffee shop over a drink, or maybe at a party where everyone is talking about things that matter to you.
There are many opportunities to talk about things that you care about and find out who else likes that thing. These are called ‘testing moments�’. Anyone might do this, but couples are usually very good at these types of conversations.
It’s easier to test the waters with strangers instead of friends because there is a level of intimacy. When you ask a friend if they like that movie they watch sometimes and see that they enjoy it, then leave it at that.
You don’t need to ask questions and get into an intimate conversation right away. Wait until something happens between you two (or perhaps something he says makes you feel funny) and then bring up topics such as sex and your relationship.
This way you won’t scare him or make him run for the hills.
If you want to try a threesome, you have to be able to trust your partner
Having a threeway with two people who you trust is incredibly sexy. However, it can be difficult to find women who are not already in relationships to join you.
If you get along well and enjoy each other’s company, then maybe now is the time for you to explore this idea further.
Most times, people avoid having a threesome because they feel that it is wrong or taboo. Even if some people believe it is wrong, don’t let them stop you! There’s no right way or wrong way to have a threesome; there’s only your way and my way.
Let others know what you’re doing and why and see how they react. It’s very possible that they won’t think twice about trying something of their own.
Try testing the water. Ask your partner if they’re down for a threesome
Most people are open to trying something new at least once, if not many times in their life. And try as we may, it is difficult to have a truly satisfying sex life without including other people.
There are so many ways to enjoy yourself — through physical touch, of course, but also through oral communication and even sexual role playing.
But perhaps the most important way to ensure you (and your partners) get what you want from a relationship is by being honest about your needs. It doesn’t matter how well you think your partner should do – there’s a good chance that you don’t need them.
You need to be able to talk about what you want and need with your partner, whether this is emotional or physical intimacy, or whether you want them to take care of you or make you breakfast in bed.
If you can’t speak freely, you will always feel like you’re cheating someone else out of your happiness. Don’t risk losing everything because you were too scared to tell anyone about what you wanted.
If they are, wait until you’re ready
There is no way around it; having a threesome is an incredibly intense experience. You will be focused on your partner, but also want another person just as much or even more.
You will have a hard time trying to focus on both activities at once, so being in control of when you start can make all the difference.
Also, don’t assume that everyone wants one. A lot of people try things because others say they should, without actually wanting to.
Finally, if someone feels pressured into having a threesome, they may not really want it. I know I didn’t.
Do your research on threesomes
There are many different ways you can go about having a threesome, and they all have their advantages and disadvantages.
You will want to make sure that you learn more about this lifestyle option before proceeding with planning one.
Do some research on threesomes and see what people say about them. See how others have done it and figure out what works for them.
This way you can find out if it is right for you and you will know exactly what you are getting into.
Many times in life, things become too good to be true. People talk about being happy forever or achieving happiness by chasing dreams but reality often tells a different story.
If you chase dreams, you may end up feeling like you’ve been chasing your dream all your life even though you just got started.
Chasing dreams doesn’t mean that you’ll never be content living day-to-day or that you’ll always be hungry or thirsty. Chasing dreams means that you’ll choose to focus on what you hope for rather than what you currently have.
By learning more about threesomes, you can decide if this is something that would appeal to you and your partner.
Talk with other people you know who’ve done this
People are usually very supportive of others seeking out what they want. If someone asks if you would be interested in trying something kinky, then why not give it a go? You never know until you try!
Mostly though, friends can help you stay positive and support each other during this difficult time. Tell your friends about how you feel and ask them which experiences have helped them deal with that feeling.
You also need to keep in mind that things don’t always work out as planned when having a threesome. It may end up being more complicated or easier than you thought.
If things do get rough, you can just leave the room or turn away from everyone and take deep breaths to calm down before coming back again. Or you could lean on your loved ones for support.
Try testing your own feelings
Even if you’re in a relationship, it never hurts to test the water. If your partner is open to trying a threeway, great! You can add them into your circle of friends with people who accept you for who you are.
If things aren’t going well, then you can break up with them “amicably” (i.e. without making them feel badly). But don’t worry about what they might have been thinking or feeling recently — there’s no way to know that except by asking.
And even if you think someone may not like being with you, try telling them you love them before you expect them to say it back to you. It could be very rewarding to hear them saying they love you too.
Write about your feelings
It’s important to write down your thoughts and emotions regarding this issue, as well as why you want to have a threesome.
Be honest with yourself, other people deserve that honesty more than you. This can help you get past any emotional hang-ups or reluctance you may be experiencing.
It also helps others by giving them a better understanding of you and what you want. I know it sounds crazy, but trust me, once you put your mind set on something, you will find a way to make it happen.
The best way to achieve anything is through thought action. So think, then act!